Then came the engagement party I wasn’t invited to. I found out about it the same way strangers did: through Facebook. A photo of her hand wearing a massive diamond ring. “He asked, I said yes.” Fifty-three likes and counting. Not one asking where her mother was.

I called her immediately. “Oh my god, Mom, I’m so sorry!” Madison’s voice was breathless, excited. “It just happened last night! Trevor surprised me, and then we called his parents, and it got so late, and I was going to call you this morning, I swear.”

“When’s the engagement party?” I asked.

There was a pause. “Next Saturday. It’s going to be small, just immediate family.”

“Should I plan to drive down Friday night?”